If you want to DWELL on anything – make it positive
People who can only DWELL on one thing can become obsessive and compulsive just about that one thing.
Having YOUR mind dwelling on that one thing can cause depression, anxiety and other maladies that are not productive for YOU aging Healthy and Happy.
YOUR mind can get stuck in that mode and it can take years to work through it. YOU may have to seek to counsel, go to classes, or take medication to move beyond.
Do not do that to YOU.
Do whatever it takes for YOU to move beyond the dwelling on negatives such as anger, jealousy, and revenge. Those are natural feelings at times but only for a few minutes – do not spend hours or days in negative feelings.
Forgiveness is one of the most important words in the world. Forgiveness of SELF, forgiveness of anyone who YOU believe has wronged you. It is very hard to move forward with YOUR life if you do not forgive SELF and others.
YOUR mind is infinite and is more than YOU think it is. Make the most of
YOUR mind- do not settle for just what YOU are thinking right this moment.
Alex Pattakos, Ph.D. has a book called, “Prisoners of Our Thoughts.”
Please read it.
Believe that we can become prisoners of our thoughts and maybe YOU already have – move beyond – do whatever it takes to move beyond.
I love Dr. Viktor Frankle’s book, “Man’s Search for Meaning”.
He and his whole family went to the into the concentration camps in World War II. He was the only one who survived because he used his mind to survive.
I was so angry when I got a divorce and was forced to become single parent home, with no child support, and never worked until I was 40. I had to get out of that anger – so I did a lot of volunteer work through those years which helped me immensely.
Find something for YOU to get out of dwelling mentally on the negatives. Do whatever it takes – cannot stress that enough.
I have had a lot of family members who had alcohol problems and drug addictions. Do not allow YOURSELF to become that person who cannot get off that merry-go-round – it is a terrible thing to have addictions – move beyond that – do whatever it takes to get off that road. I am very careful about drinking – be very careful about what and how much of anything.
If YOU cannot feel good about YOU without putting something into your Mind then I believe you need counseling, group therapy, or someone to help you move beyond that.
Be able to look YOURself in the mirror and say “I love you” Do that for YOU. Make the effort, YOU are worth all the time YOU spend on pampering YOURself. I had a doctor once tell me that “YOU are okay if your can clean your house and not sleep all the time.” So just to check – clean house and do not stay in bed longer than 6-8 hours a day.